FREE BOOK: Get Conviction Free...For a Limited Time

Wednesday, August 24, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Books

Hey, guys! I've got a little surprise for you. 

You've been here, making every day kick all kinds of butt, some of you for YEARS. I'm thinking you guys deserve a little bit of awesome even if just for putting up with my shennanigans. So I'm giving you a copy of my new release, Conviction. Writers depend on their readers and you guys are amazing. So, thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU. 

All you have to do is CLICK HERE and add your email to my book newsletter. I won't spam you and you'll get the jump on new releases, insider information, and book specials.

And if you have friends who love to read, PASS THIS LINK ALONG!

Share it on Facebook. Twitter. Wherever. Tell them you know the author. Maybe make them buy you cupcakes for the awesome free book tip. Or chocolate. Gum. Something. Make it work for you. 

The only catch is that YOU HAVE TO CLAIM THE BOOK BEFORE September 12th, 2016. 

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Reliving the Past: How to Get Rid of Unwanted Fantasies

Tuesday, August 23, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

After the San Francisco earthquake of 1989, child care centers across the country noted the emergence of a game called “earthquake,” where children, without provocation, acted out an earthquake scene over and over again, processing the trauma in such a way as to be powerful at the end1.  This is an example of an automatic, impulsive fantasy reenactment, an obvious response to one event that needed to be dealt with. 

But we are more complicated than that in most other areas. Sexual fantasies can run the gamut from “Hey, Baby,” to, “Oh dear, god, why the fuck am I thinking about that!?” because of their tendency to be representative as opposed to literal. For example, donkey fantasies are usually more about..ahem…size and not having to worry about a parter as opposed to wanting to fuck an actual donkey. As a general rule, fantasies may increase pleasure, or on the flip side represent certain unresolved elements of our pasts, functioning to desensitize us to traumas, or helping us to overcome guilt or shame (discussed more here in Whips Chains and Penises, OH MY! Fantasy and the Feminist Argument for Bondage).

But if you are convinced that the fantasies are literal (and sometimes if you aren’t), they can freak you out and become like intrusive thought patterns, an obsession more than a desire, the fear of the thoughts as well as their link to past pleasure driving them to continue.

So what to do if a distressing fantasy keeps coming up?...  continue reading

How Safe Is Your Job? Why Self-Control Matters For Physical and Mental Health

Tuesday, August 09, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under General

The loss of control can do more than make you super pissed-off, particularly for those of us more inclined to buck assimilation. 

Me? Combative? Seriously, that's not a fucking surprise, is it?

But according to choice researcher Dr. Sheena Iyengar, author of, The Art of Choosing, lack of choice may trigger physical health problems as opposed to purely emotional ones1....  continue reading

This Post Is About A Baby. And Donald Trump. Also, Narcissism.

Thursday, August 04, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under General

I tried to stay away from all the politics, I really did. But this post isn’t really about politics. It’s not about Hillary’s emails. Or Trump’s tax returns or pending racketeering investigations. It’s not about possible relationships with Putin or even policy on either side of the aisle.

This is about a baby. 

This week, we’ve all seen Trump during a speech where he has a woman with a crying baby removed from the venue. The baby video in an of itself seems innocuous on the outside. Sure, Trump has proven himself to be the epitome of the Cards Against Humanity showstopper “Being a dick to children” but whatever. Not everyone likes kids. Probably next to no one enjoys children when they’re trying to give a speech.

But what I saw was far from an innocuous. What I saw was sickness....  continue reading

Can Alcohol Cause Traumatic Responses? The Two-Way Street Between Alcohol and PTSD

Tuesday, July 26, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Trauma

In people ages eighteen and older, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) occurs in about three and a half percent of the population in any given year1. PTSD is common following situations that involve threatened death or serious injury, such as robbery or rape, an earthquake or a car accident.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder leads many to feel out of control. The symptoms may be so overwhelming some turn to the use of substances in an effort to calm themselves. However, there is a great deal of evidence to suggest that alcohol not only exacerbates the symptoms of PTSD, but also increases the likelihood of getting PTSD in the first place....  continue reading

4 Alternative Treatments For Postpartum Depression You Need To Know About

Tuesday, July 12, 2016 by Meg   •   Filed under Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression can rear its ugly, no-good, dirty, rotten head anytime, including during pregnancy as discussed at length in the last post. And the earlier it begins, the more reluctant women tend to be about beginning drug treatment. Many women choose to forgo drug treatment altogether in the postpartum period, making it critical to find alternative therapies--though make no mistake, medications can be lifesavers for those suffering severe bouts of depression, anxiety or other conditions. So what to do? It isn't like we can just toss these women aside, unless you're Rush Limbaugh, in which case this is perfectly reasonable. I mean, about as reasonable as Rush fucking goats which I heard was totally his weekend guilty pleasure. 


Alright, let us forgo the beastiality for a moment and get back to the issue at hand: how to help the ladies who are uncomfortable with medication management during pregnancy and the postpartum period deal with a depressive episode. Because in addition to the standard advice of talk therapy and increased social support, there are a few other options for decreasing depressive symptoms postpartum....  continue reading