How to Cope With Intrusive Thoughts: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Talking (To Yourself) and the Benefit of Defensiveness

Friday, October 24, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

In When Panic Attacks1Dr. David Burns notes that role playing can be a great exercise to organize ideas and hear the absurdity of irrational scary thoughts. Debating anxiety-producing thoughts out loud may be of even more assistance for people who prefer to learn by listening to lectures or other types of auditory cues. 

This post will be short as there are only a few techniques that are related closely enough to justify putting them together. Because no matter which type of cognitive behavioral therapy practices you're into at the moment, they just don't compare to yelling at yourself or someone you love like a tweaked-out Gilbert Gottfried....  continue reading

Deep Breathing: You're Doing it Wrong.

Monday, October 20, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

It usually goes down something like this: someone comes in and says, “I heard deep breathing is supposed to help with anxiety, but it  makes me feel worse.”

Red flag number one.

They go on. “Sometimes, even if I feel okay to begin with, I feel dizzy or like I am about to pass out when I start taking deep breaths.”

Even though panic and anxiety can cause dizziness, tunnel vision and lightheadedness, I count this as red flag number two if it seems to be made worse by the breathing. 

From me, it takes two words to see if I am right: “Show me.”

After years of clinical practice, one thing is clear: you people have no idea how to breathe. This is especially true in those who have a history of trauma (due to bodily disconnection or dissociation) and those with overactive sympathetic nervous systems (such as those with anxiety disorders or depression). And deep breathing done the wrong way can actually make anxiety symptoms worse instead of alleviating them....  continue reading

Stop Being Mean (to yourself): 8 Ways to Reduce Scary or Intrusive Thoughts

Wednesday, October 15, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a cornerstone in the treatment of depression, anxiety disorders and even other therapies such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is often used to treat personality disorders. The premise is simple: by altering the way people think, we can change their responses and the way they end up behaving. 

Sounds good, right? 

While there are numerous tactics for addressing negative or racing thoughts, some are more popular than others. So today, I wanted to offer you a quick and dirty list of some of my favorite types of CBT practices. 

But first we need a thought to challenge. Let’s say your recurrent negative thought is, “I’m a terrible mother. Everyone else does it better.”

We’ve all been there, right? So how to combat this?...  continue reading

What is Dialectical Behavioral Therapy? The Features of DBT, Radical Acceptance and Coping with Pee

Monday, October 13, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) has been a growing phenomenon in the psychotherapy world. And as this movement becomes more popular in the general population, I have been getting more and more questions about it.

“So….DBT is like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy…but it isn’t?”

Pretty much. There are a number of great books on it, including Calming the Emotional Storm: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Manage Your Emotions and Balance Your LifeDBT Made Simple: A Step-by-Step Guide to Dialectical Behavior Therapy, the DBT Skills Training Manual, Doing Dialectical Behavior Therapy: A Practical Guide (Guides to Individualized Evidence-Based Treatment)Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Binge Eating and Bulimia, and, as a clear winner for the longest title on the planet, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance

But before you run out and buy those, I invited a friend of mine to tell you all about DBT and illustrate some key concepts for you. Welcome to the world of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy....  continue reading

How To Deal With Negative Self Talk: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfulness Training and Self Compassion

Friday, September 12, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Dr. David Burns, author of When Panic Attacks, and Dr. Ronald Siegel, author of The Mindfulness Solution, discuss self compassion as a balm for anxious thoughts. Dr. Howard Cutler and the Dalai Lama also discuss this concept in the book The Art of Happiness. All four provide slightly different viewpoints with some important areas of overlap, namely, that we all talk down to ourselves far too much, and with little justifiable reason.

And this is something we can change.  

There are many different methods for changing thought patterns which is why I have a whole series of posts on it (a few of which are linked at the bottom of this article). But for today, let's look at mindfulness and self compassion. Of these techniques the latter is usually slightly more confrontational than the former. 

Latter (Compassion): “Would you say that shit to your best friend? No? Then don't say it to yourself.”

Former (Mindfulness): “I will simply notice the words and allow them to roll off as water on a duck’s back.” 

At first glance, they hardly seem related. But, trust me, they are....  continue reading

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Using Storytelling to Decrease Depression and PTSD Symptoms

Monday, July 14, 2014 by Meg   •   Filed under Treatment Techniques

Sometimes a pencil is just a pencil. (I think Freud said that.) And sometimes, a pencil is a great deal more. (He probably said that too.)

Writing is a powerful tool for those dealing with mental health issues. It might be especially important in cases of trauma where integrating memory is a critical part of healing. Creative engagement, in the form of writing or other artistic expression, serves to decrease anxiety, stress and other psychological disturbances1


As if you needed more excuses to lock yourself up with a notebook, expressive writing also improves complications of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder and depressive symptoms in those with a history of sexual abuse2. Writing may also improve sexual dysfunction issues in those who write specifically about sexual topics2. This type of writing may also serve to decrease depressive symptoms in those from abusive relationships3.

That's a pretty powerful pencil....  continue reading