“I just want a quickie.”
“I feel used.”
“I think we should have sex more often.”
“I think you need to show me more emotional support first.”
“How about just a blow job?”
“How about a back rub?”
“Why do you always want sex?”
“Why don’t you want it more?”
“God, I’m just so…bored.”
Sound familiar? If you're like thousands of other couples this Valentine's Day, you might be having one of these conversations. We can't all be like Shannon and Morrison in my second novel, Conviction. (Rawr.)
Sexual issues come up often in relationship counseling, and they can be tricky to tease apart, unlike your husband’s legs. (Ba dum dum, ching). While sexual activity is at a peak in early relationships, it tends to decline over time. But why? We surely love our spouse more now than we do when we met them, don’t we?
Why would our sexual desire so reliably go down (and not in the fun way)? There are quite a few reasons, and obviously all of them cannot be discussed in one post. But while this isn’t a universal truth for everyone, there are a few, very common reasons for a loss of desire. And while I will be addressing the ladies here only because I more often see couples where women have lower drives, keep in mind that these roles can be reversed.
Come with me. (heh) Let’s check this out.... continue reading