Why What We Know About Male Sexual Jealousy May Be Wrong

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

 

According to psychologist and researcher Dr. David Buss, jealousy looks different across the sexes1.

Of course, we already knew that.

We've all seen The Bachlorette. We've watched the Housewives of Atlanta scream and fight because their partner paid too much attention to another woman at a party.

We've also heard the news stories about some guy opening fire on his best friend for sleeping with his wife. We may also be aware that, until its repeal in 1974, Texas law allowed men to shoot their wives if they were found in bed with another man (True story)....  continue reading

Can Similar Parents Cause Psychological Issues in Children? Assortative Mating, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Obesity and Autism

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships


Assortative mating--or marrying someone much like yourself--is a relatively new phenomenon. In generations past, marriage was often a function of factors like building relationships between families (think joining kingdoms), or for a dowry as opposed to similar dispositions.

Today, times have changed. We live in a computerized world of matchmaking, where we can seek and find those who are much like us with relative ease. Newer models of dating embrace "matching couples across 69 different personality traits" because everyone knows that those who are more similar are happier in the long run. 

Right?

Sharing certain ideologies or lifestyles may reduce later conflict between couples. But marrying someone with similar personality traits—and therefore similar genetics—may have unexpected consequences for younger generations for both heritable and environmental reasons. However, this doesn’t mean that anyone should necessarily avoid partnering with someone too similar....  continue reading

What Is Aspergers? The Evolutionary Benefit of Autistic Traits

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under General


In the past, those with Aspergers were often thought to have anxiety disorders or were simply labeled as “introverts”. Today, the inclusion of Aspergers is one of the main reasons for the rise in the numbers of those on the autism spectrum. 

Despite the fact that it is becoming more mainstream—thanks in large part to mother’s advocacy groups—Aspergers is often greatly misunderstood, particularly in adults. The traits associated with Aspergers can trigger social difficulties and inadvertently lead to anxiety and depression. Most are also unaware that Aspergers and other spectrum traits may have had great importance in our evolutionary history. Those on the spectrum may have thrived when the more social among us could not.

There are a number of strengths inherent in the Aspergers diagnosis, even if it is discouraging due to constant bombardment of how people are “supposed to” behave or feel. Understanding the symptoms, the benefits, and the treatments available may assist those who struggle with the symptoms of Aspergers as well as those who love them....  continue reading

Self Esteem and Sex: The Link Between Marketability and Teenage Promiscuity

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

“Slut.”

“Whore.”

“Tramp.”

Casual sex, or multiple sexual partners, is not something women are praised for. Indeed the insults flung at us are generally the most vile around sexuality. When we choose to engage in casual sex, we are assumed to be broken, to have low self worth. Because, “No self respecting woman would sleep with that many people.” Right? 

But things are not as clear cut as they seem. There are a number of reasons for such behaviors and this is a blog not a semester long course in human reproduction. If it were I couldn’t drop the F bomb nearly as frequently. But I digress. 

Don’t misunderstand me; some women do have low self esteem. Many of those women also tend towards higher rates of sexual behaviors, including more partners, and sex at younger ages. 

But all sex is not created equal. Let’s take a ride. (That's what she said.)...  continue reading

Born Female: The Relationship Between Stress, Miscarriage, and Girl Power

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Psychology of Motherhood

Do we prefer baby boys over baby girls?

We have certainly heard about these preferences in other countries. Some places have seen parents murdering infant girls so they can try for a boy, particularly where population restraints made more children illegal. In these cultures, there was a time when not bearing a son was grounds for divorce. Obviously some cultures have a strong male preference. 

But this isn’t just an issue overseas. The preference for boys over girls is rampant here in the US of A.

Isn’t it? 

Research has shown that women who have first-born girls are less likely to marry1. Even in utero, an ultrasound tech’s exclamation of, “Daughter!” reduced the chance of nuptials. Women with first-born daughters were also more likely to end up divorced and fathers were more likely to seek custody of sons following divorces1. Researchers believed that this was due to either an overt or subconscious preference for boys over girls1

Of course such assertions make sense in a patriarchal society. After all, girls are weaker. We’re more emotional. We need too much. We are less likely to succeed. The odds are stacked against us. Why wouldn’t we want boys, even if only on a subconscious level? 

Why not desire boys? Because the conclusions of theses earlier researchers might be fucking baloney. Things are not always what they seem....  continue reading

Fear of Commitment, or Striving for Independence? The Battle Between Autonomy and Relational Worth

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

We evolved to be initially leery of strangers. But over time, we grow to see those around us as parts of our group, an evolutionary predisposition to attach to another which would have been our greatest method for survival within our ancestral past. It is no wonder that we panic a little at the thought of being alone

But what happens when the commitment itself is threatening to us? 

We have all heard someone say, “Never again.” Never again will they count on someone, for life has taught them that others are not worthy of trust. Never again will they open up about their feelings for it only opens the door to pain. And many of them close off sooner because their earliest experiences reflected these notions as well....  continue reading