Self Esteem and Sex: The Link Between Marketability and Teenage Promiscuity

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships




Casual sex, or multiple sexual partners, is not something women are praised for. Indeed the insults flung at us are generally the most vile around sexuality. When we choose to engage in casual sex, we are assumed to be broken, to have low self worth. Because, “No self respecting woman would sleep with that many people.” Right? 

But things are not as clear cut as they seem. There are a number of reasons for such behaviors and this is a blog not a semester long course in human reproduction. If it were I couldn’t drop the F bomb nearly as frequently. But I digress. 

Don’t misunderstand me; some women do have low self esteem. Many of those women also tend towards higher rates of sexual behaviors, including more partners, and sex at younger ages. 

But all sex is not created equal. Let’s take a ride. (That's what she said.)...  continue reading

Born Female: The Relationship Between Stress, Miscarriage, and Girl Power

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Psychology of Motherhood

Do we prefer baby boys over baby girls?

We have certainly heard about these preferences in other countries. Some places have seen parents murdering infant girls so they can try for a boy, particularly where population restraints made more children illegal. In these cultures, there was a time when not bearing a son was grounds for divorce. Obviously some cultures have a strong male preference. 

But this isn’t just an issue overseas. The preference for boys over girls is rampant here in the US of A.

Isn’t it? 

Research has shown that women who have first-born girls are less likely to marry1. Even in utero, an ultrasound tech’s exclamation of, “Daughter!” reduced the chance of nuptials. Women with first-born daughters were also more likely to end up divorced and fathers were more likely to seek custody of sons following divorces1. Researchers believed that this was due to either an overt or subconscious preference for boys over girls1

Of course such assertions make sense in a patriarchal society. After all, girls are weaker. We’re more emotional. We need too much. We are less likely to succeed. The odds are stacked against us. Why wouldn’t we want boys, even if only on a subconscious level? 

Why not desire boys? Because the conclusions of theses earlier researchers might be fucking baloney. Things are not always what they seem....  continue reading

Fear of Commitment, or Striving for Independence? The Battle Between Autonomy and Relational Worth

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

We evolved to be initially leery of strangers. But over time, we grow to see those around us as parts of our group, an evolutionary predisposition to attach to another which would have been our greatest method for survival within our ancestral past. It is no wonder that we panic a little at the thought of being alone

But what happens when the commitment itself is threatening to us? 

We have all heard someone say, “Never again.” Never again will they count on someone, for life has taught them that others are not worthy of trust. Never again will they open up about their feelings for it only opens the door to pain. And many of them close off sooner because their earliest experiences reflected these notions as well....  continue reading

Foods For Depression: Garlic, Ginger, and Juice

Wednesday, November 01, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

At the risk of sounding all hippy dippy, there are lots of foods out there that have healing properties. Some are brain cell protectant due to high levels of antioxidants. Some interfere with the regulation of neurotransmitters which has the potential to boost mood in a totally chemistry related way. 

And some foods do both of those things. 

So without further ado, let’s check out two very common, and very spicy, friends that may work to boost brain health. And I even have a sweet recipe for you guys to try. 

It’s a three-for-one today, people....  continue reading

One Critical Mineral For Mental Health That You May Not Get Enough Of: The Relationship Between Magnesium and Depression

Tuesday, November 14, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Physical Health and Emotion

Magnesium is the bomb for depression. Chocolate has it (and so does that chocolate cream pie on the Thanksgiving table). You're welcome. 

Magnesium is involved in a great many bodily functions including the absorption of calcium. It is also crucial for contractions of the heart muscle and may be related to heart issues including coronary spasm and heart disease. It even has the ability to relax smooth muscles of the body which make it useful in asthma reduction and blood pressure regulation. 

As if the physical benefits weren't enough to make you run out and grab some magnesium rich foods, a wide range of mental health processes can be altered by the absence of this essential element....  continue reading

Why Hugh Hefner May Be On The "Wright" Track: Little Known Reasons That Polygamy May Benefit Women

Tuesday, October 10, 2017 by Meg   •   Filed under Sexuality/Relationships

Okay, so if you're all about the monogamous union for reasons other than personal choice, you may want to stop reading now. Because while hate mail is obviously fun, it's nowhere near as fun as polygamy. (Ba dum dum, ching.)

Let's be clear up front: I am not advocating for this arrangement, nor am I trying to promote it. There are even pieces of this particular issue that make me a little queasy. I see this more as a discussion of an interesting evolutionary argument--a mind bender, an article to explore a side of an issue I never before considered. Humans did not evolve to be specifically monogamous, but that's beside the point. Because according to Robert Wright, author of The Moral Animal, there may be a liberal feminist argument for polygamy1....  continue reading